Serious Answers to your SEXtions
Start with understanding and then discovery
Published: Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Updated: Tuesday, February 5, 2013 14:02
My name is Kate McConnell. I am a senior majoring in political science.
I am from a pretty big town in Massachusetts. I am writing this column to educate students at Southern University about sex.
It seems like sex has become something everyone does, but no one wants to talk about it. My goal is to better inform students on all the wonderful benefits sex has to offer without the negative connotations associated with it.
Sex. We all crave it. Men, women, young or old, sex is what humans hunger after. It is no surprise considering we think about sex quite often.
An experiment by Dr. Terry Fisher and her colleagues at Ohio State University found that on average men think about sex 19 times a day, and women think about it 10 times a day on average.
For those of you who do not know, and I know there are some that do not, sex not only involves penetration, but also oral and anal activity.
But before we get into all that, it is important to know the body parts of both genders.
Now, I know most of you think you know all the sexual parts on a woman or a man, but what about the secret spots no one mentions?
This information might seem taboo, but remember it is educational.
We as students learn on a daily basis. I am just passing on the information I have been so fortunate to discover over the years.
There are many parts on a person’s body that elicit sexual arousal.
These are called erogenous zones. Genitals, of course are the main source of sexual arousal, but there are parts of the body that are not part of the reproductive system that will provide just as much arousal.
Our skin is the largest sensory organ we have.
Touching the inner thigh, neck, or breast area, can send any man or woman through the roof. Eyes, ears, shoulders, and even feet, for some people, can be an erogenous zone.
A good kiss to the lips can send good vibrations to the lips below.
Exploring all your partner’s body is the first step you should take when starting a sexual relationship with someone.
Spend the time learning what your sexual partner likes because all it takes is one disappointing experience to end a promising relationship.
Above all, be safe.
It may sound cliché, but knowledge is power.
That includes sexual knowledge about your partner.
Make sure the both of you get tested before anything.
If your partner does not want to get tested, move on. It is not worth the risk. Use a condom no matter how gross they feel or taste.
Lastly, be respectable.
If a person does not want to jump into bed with you, get over it.
Do not spread rumors; do not tell lies, just move on and live your life.
We only have one to live, so never be pressured into doing something you will regret.